Last Thursday, I was in Toronto attending one of Dan Sullivan’s “You x10” quarterly workshops.

We covered a lot of ground in a day and I came away with a whole host of ideas and concepts to implement during the next 90 days.

One of the real benefits of Dan’s workshops is the conversation that sparks in the room on topics that don’t normally get discussed at typical business workshops and meetings.

I was fascinated with the discussion that took place in the workshop on courage and confidence; and thought I’d share it with you…

People say that they could achieve more if they had the confidence to do it. However, confidence is created by courage.

If you have chosen a bigger future for yourself, you will have immediately created uncertainty about your future – you won’t know exactly what is going to happen and the pay off is not guaranteed.

So, you have automatically placed yourself in a position where you lack confidence and will have to rely upon courage until you’ve demonstrated to yourself that you can do it.

What happens if you fail? How would you cope out of your comfort zone? Will you have the resources to overcome any challenges or difficulties that present themselves? What will other people say?

The only thing you are able to rely upon is courage, but you already have courage and it’s a choice as to whether you use it or not.

Courage comes from “inside” and is a choice; whereas confidence is external and appears when you have overcome and transformed fear, which has provided the “proof” you needed to be confident.

True confidence is derived from having transformed and overcome, not from simply “pretending” to be confident.

Dan gave three pieces of advice:

1. Choose the future that you want.

2. Decide which part (including which people) of the past that get to come along.

3. Utilise the present to make the best possible future.

Your future has to have a big picture. There’s always uncertainty about the future. Look at the past and make new choices about who and what needs to come along on your journey to fulfill that picture.

I happened to read something on Facebook this morning from someone obviously involved in Buddhism that resonated with me:

1. Make peace with your past so it won’t disturb your present.

2. What other people think of you is none of your business.

3. Time heals almost everything – give it time.

4. No one is in charge of your happiness, except you.

5. Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them, you have no idea what their journey is all about.

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